Weaknesses

In Sexaholics Anonymous I have learned about the idea of leading with my weaknesses, and that has really stuck with me because it seems to me that I have to live with my weaknesses on my sleeves. I am hard enough on myself and constantly remind myself of my failings and I am constantly trying not to let those things get me down, so it's hard to imagine doing those things on purpose. 

That (started) to change for me when I asked AI (I LOVE Copilot by Microsoft...) to help me understand it. The way I understand the concept now, leading with my weakness means that I don't try to hide them in an effort to elevate myself, but to be honest and open about my fallings which makes me vulnerable and open to change. This became applicable in real life just yesterday. 

I am selfish.

I can hear well-meaning loved ones saying: "no Renato, you're not selfish! Be kind to yourself", and that is true. We (I) need to have grace for ourselves (myself), but I believe that it's okay to acknowledge that yesterday I acted VERY selfishly. After acknowledging that to myself it became easier to deal with the sadness I felt. I suppose that instead of using my energy to hide the problem, I focused on letting go of my pride, which took, I think, surprisingly less energy.